tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-332491328939495514.post8698690190685716771..comments2024-01-22T00:55:41.067-08:00Comments on Thinking Got Loud: Between the Lines: A few thoughts on long-distance friendshipsRam Muralihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15932557588480669430noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-332491328939495514.post-24264410887080359382017-05-17T10:33:47.635-07:002017-05-17T10:33:47.635-07:00Thanks, Ma, for the thoughtful comment.Thanks, Ma, for the thoughtful comment.Ram Muralihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15932557588480669430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-332491328939495514.post-63698965742977635072017-05-16T16:03:33.437-07:002017-05-16T16:03:33.437-07:00Ram I can really think of several friendships that...Ram I can really think of several friendships that I have been able to maintain long distance and like Ravi Shankar said just pick up the thread as if time had not passed. I really think that there should be a common bond and a natural affinity that will help keep the friendship even if one has not seen the other person in years. <br />Also there are some friendships that just break up-I always feel bad and try not to let that happen as I feel I have invested a lot of time and emotions into a friendship. But I suppose some friendships also have EOL. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02130601742428140985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-332491328939495514.post-4054237876960013312017-05-16T12:31:25.563-07:002017-05-16T12:31:25.563-07:00Thanks a ton, Ravishanker.
"When I returned ...Thanks a ton, Ravishanker.<br /><br />"When I returned to work in Madras eight years later we picked up the threads as if nothing had happened in the interim. Strange."<br />--> I don't think it's strange @ all. Friendships have given me many such pleasant surprises!Ram Muralihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15932557588480669430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-332491328939495514.post-40497347407119552362017-05-16T01:05:37.035-07:002017-05-16T01:05:37.035-07:00Ram Murali : Heartily echo Anu's sentiments.
...<br />Ram Murali : Heartily echo Anu's sentiments.<br /><br />I started reading the article and when you started talking about hand written greeting cards I started nodding vacuously - thoughts such as how strange that a hand written card still means so much in this e-world but a hand written letter evokes contempt and may even result in fissures being created in a relationship.<br /> <br />Then when I started reading the paras that followed I was woken up from vacuous stupor where you delve into the dynamics of relationships.<br /><br />Again be warned that this wont be the only time that I read this article this week.<br /><br />I'm still recovering from the first "onslaught" and need few more readings to grapple with the points you've made. <br /><br />At a very basic level it appears we have time and energy to maintain only so many relationships at a point in time.<br /><br />For instance I met my "first wife" in Viveka college and we spent a helluva lot of time together.<br /><br />Then after C.A I went to work in Baroda and Bangalore I completely lost touch with him.<br /><br />When I returned to work in Madras eight years later we picked up the threads as if nothing had happened in the interim. Strange.<br /><br />For now the ending exclamation mark remains :)<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Zolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09347849134451149946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-332491328939495514.post-81413555324115970802017-05-15T08:31:37.957-07:002017-05-15T08:31:37.957-07:00Thank you, Anu, for your lovely comment.
I totally...Thank you, Anu, for your lovely comment.<br />I totally agree with you on the "amazement" factor!<br />Thank *you* for making my Monday brighter!Ram Muralihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15932557588480669430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-332491328939495514.post-76371353766562226312017-05-15T04:56:22.226-07:002017-05-15T04:56:22.226-07:00One of your best essays, Ram. I loved the analogy ...One of your best essays, Ram. I loved the analogy of music/dirge. That's so very apt.<br /><br />I'll add, sometimes you become friends with someone without ever having met them,and that someone adds something so wonderful to your life that you wonder how you got along without them in it. There's amazement at finding an amorphous someone who just 'gets' you. One may never meet, but friendship it is, nevertheless. <br /><br />Thanks for making my morning brighter.Anu Warrierhttp://anuradhawarrier.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com