No sooner had I uploaded my
previous write-up, “Presents of the Past” than I toggled to a few of my
favorite albums from the 90s during my ride to work. It felt just right. It was not as though I was wallowing in past
memories – a few songs in a 35-min drive, just enough to hum a few notes from
the pages of nostalgia. One song that made me
pause considerably was the scintillating, “Putham Puthu Bhoomi” from
the caper Thiruda Thiruda. A quartet of small time crooks stumble upon a
truckload (literally so!) of money and launch into a song. But the lovely twist is that the song doesn’t
feature a single line about money or wealth.
It is about a utopian future, sans poverty, hunger, a world where lasting
peace satiates the mind’s appetite for a better tomorrow. Subsuming the ideas springing out of that
song under the larger fabric of thoughts that stitched itself in my mind in the
wake of my Aunt’s second death anniversary, I have put together a wish list of 10 items (in no particular order). For
each of these ‘gifts’ that I would like to receive, I shall add a couple of lines
on what attracted me to it in the first place.
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Ability to speak loudly with actions
o
Ever since I heard Anu Hasan state that it is
imperative to shift focus away from content to intent, I feel that I have to put
more thought into the possible reactions derived from my actions, over any
possible resonance that my words may hold.
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Thoughtfulness to appreciate effort regardless of outcome
o
The CEO of a startup that I worked for in the
2004-05 timeframe once came to the cubicle of every employee before we headed
to an important conference to thank us all for our hard work in preparing for
the launch – he made it a point to not wait until we got to see labor bear
fruit. Just the labor merited praise and
acknowledgement. As William James once
said, “The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated.” Our CEO has surely taught me a thing or two
on how to cater to the cravings of my family, friends and colleagues.
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The magic mix of analysis and storytelling
o
As I strive to advance in my career as an
analytical marketer, I hope to never lose sight of the value of a well told
story. My former manager once said, with
his tongue firmly in cheek, “Never let the facts come in the way of a good
story!” Well, let me find ways to make
them co-exist.
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The alertness of a thinking leader
o
Sanjay Manjrekar wrote of former captain and current prime minister of Pakistan Imran Khan that when on a
cricket field, he had never seen Imran’s focus shift away from the action. He wanted to make things happen, not wait for
them to happen. If not for anything else, the
thought of Imran (thanks to Manjrekar) is likely to help me resist the lure of
multitasking and the distraction of my dumb…err…smart phone.
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Patience to convey pain without hiding it in a
capsule of anger
o
A dear friend of mine once told me in a very low
tone, years after he got married, that he was very upset that I didn’t make it
to his wedding. I have never felt a
stronger urge to apologize.
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The zest to read non-fiction
o
Given the abiding impact that non-fiction authors
like Susan Cain and Charles Duhigg have made on me, I wish to never be bereft
of meaningful words. After all, every
author gifts me a fresh pair of lenses to view the world through. It all started with Sheena Iyengar who urged
me to “be choosy about choosing.”
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The zeal to write about what is right
o
When I lose myself in a train of thought,
writing seems to provide the directions to the right stop where I must disembark
and change tracks. When I write about my
value system, I sincerely feel that the words come first, the thoughts later. It is strangely comforting and during times
of need, the pen (well, the keyboard) becomes a friend indeed.
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An Undying love for cinema
o
Movies have been an integral part of my life for
as far as I can remember. To enter and
exit worlds created by others is a gift that I am truly thankful for. For the characters to then enter my world and
stay in the deep recesses of my mind is a kind of magic that I am very grateful
for. Exhibit A – Rhythm. Exhibit B – Iruvar.
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The blessing of relevance
o
In recent times, this has become a prized
commodity for me – the strong need to feel that I am relevant, that I matter to
those that are relevant and those that matter to me. May long distances not result in my fading
out of sight. And that the mirror of
thoughtful reflection correct any issues of myopia.
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And finally, the wealth of good health
o
If I continue to receive this gift, then I am
rich. If my loved ones all get this,
then I will be superrich.
7 comments:
Good write up! But I disagree to - "thoughtfulness to appreciate efforts regardless of outcome". I can't see that happening in work-life. The instance you have mentioned is a rare one I guess....many don't get to see it in reality. Life is an illusion in many ways (as my brother says) and I have started believing in it.
From a friend's dad (on WhatsApp):
Very well written blog, Ram���� The goals set by you for yourself should serve as an eye-opener for many, irrespective of their age and gender��
Do not assume that sky is your limit, as there are foot prints on the MOON
Lovely article, Ram. I love the part that mentions gift of health and gift of relevance. ������
Ram : I'm amazed that you could put together this list and "header" each item so beautifully.
Anyone else would have taken months to mull over this and then fretted over how to put in such a concise fashion (which is the most difficult thing to do - its easier to ramble)
The 'Blessing of Relevance' is to me the most relevant one. What are we here for and what will we leave before departing ? The fear and despair that we didnt make a difference is probably what lurks uneasily in the dark corner of our minds
But Ram. Imran had great resources at his disposal. What did Gavaskar have, paavam guy ?
Dear all, Thank you so much for your kind words.
Zola, I had more of a bone to pick with Kapil than I did with Sunny. While Imran mentored people like Qadir, Waqar, Wasim and Inzamam, Kapil selfishly chased Hadlee's record.
I'm absolutely with you on that
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